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When faced with corporate burnout and her own threatened state of wellbeing, Neroli Jones, founder of PS embarked on a journey of personal discovery. She identified four key quadrants that underpin our wellbeing – and realised that it is not until these are in balance, that we can expect to feel a complete sense of health. These pillars, she names – the Physical, Mental, Purposeful and Emotional.
“I call this our Wellbeing Compass”
When our Wellbeing Compass is in balance, we can navigate successfully through the pathway of life’s highs and lows with ease, effortlessly. On the other hand, when it is not balanced, that is when the problems start.
Until now emotional wellbeing has been quite overlooked, with much of what we see in the news focused on mental health. The emotional impact on our lives has traditionally been sidelined or neglected altogether. If mental health is that of the mind, emotional health is that of our feelings and the related aspects of that – our relationships with others and with ourselves.
A few years ago, when Neroli was caught in an unexpected downward spiral, her health alerted her to a crisis point before she had worked out that apart from addressing the obvious physical imbalance, it was the emotional side of things that really needed attention. Being a high achiever, placing unrealistic demands on her body, she’d turned to pushing herself harder in an attempt to improve her fitness and physical health. This, in fact proved not to be the answer and had she listened to her body in the first instance, the crisis might have been easily avoided.
It was not until Neroli acknowledged her body’s cry for attention that she could flip the paradigm and start to give it the love it so desperately yearned for. So, baby steps of self-kindness were taken to get her health back on track; wellbeing became her utmost priority. We are not programmed to be kind to ourselves and it is often seen to be a form of self indulgence, but this illuminating journey helped to navigate her pathway to wellbeing, big breakthroughs and quantum leaps. Learning to love ourselves where we are right now, not where we could be / should be / are expected to be – but right here.
Emotions are simply feelings with a judgement attached. Once we understand this, the rest falls into place.
Emotional wellbeing is about truth – the truth of now. It’s about self-acceptance without judgement and it’s about love. More often than not, we feed ourselves a diet of toxic lies. Our relationship with ourselves is the most profoundly complex relationship we will ever navigate and yet we spend most of our time developing or managing relationships with others, outside ourselves.
Emotional wellbeing focuses on your relationship with you…. ask yourself regularly – how does this (person, event, conversation, activity – whatever) make me feel? Do I want more of that or less of that? How you feel tells you everything.
You actually do know what you need, you do know what makes you happy, but you do need to invest the time to listen. That’s called emotional wellbeing.
To understand your personal wellbeing and discover how balanced you are, go to the Paradigm Switch compass tool and spend a few minutes to reveal where you need to focus on improvement. You might be quite surprised at the results. The PS Compass will point to the quadrant that needs most work, so you then can be directed to the best suited therapies.
Tags: balance, emotions, lifestyle, wellbeing, wellness