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Have you Met Yourself?

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“I was dissatisfied with most areas of my life, I had a job I hated, my health had suffered, the family were in disarray and my self critic made me feel I was failing at everything.”

  A familiar lament we hear only too often? Steve Grant, PS practitioner, certainly says so. It's hardly surprising, when you weigh up the the multi-tasking, juggling lives most of us lead. He has been using the practice of Voice Dialogues for over 16 years, to help patients suffering from problems ranging from sleep disorders to relationship breakdowns at both home and work. Steve believes it is most important to DEVELOP OUR INNER AWARENESS. “This is critical in understanding who is in control of our personal psychological car.” He explains. According to psychologists, Hal and Sidra Stone, we are all made up of many sub personalities - many selves; each one of them having been programmed as we developed and grew up. This practice of “Voice Dialogue” and the “The Psychology of Selves” was developed more than forty years ago, when The Stones identified each self to have its own agendas, memories, desires, physical needs and prejudices. We switch from one to the other regularly and often everyday, depending on what we are doing. Consider how different we act when we are at the office as compared to when we’re on a dinner date, or how our parenting varies to our friendships. Most of us display the following sub personalities: the people pleaser, inner critic, rule maker, the analyst, clown, rebel, or achiever. We also own the ‘being’ personalities such as being happy, vain, fearful, or sad.

Sub-Personalities have the Power

The problems arise when many people express only a tiny percentage of themselves, by getting locked into and limited by only a small group of these sub personalities. This creates our whole life experience and forms patterns we repeat in relationships, with inner feelings and emotions, leisure activities, career and financial status. Our health, creative expression, view of the world and so forth is further influenced by these sub personalities. If your life’s experiences are constantly repeating or not playing out in the way you want, don’t look for an outside cause. It is vital to consider the workings of the sub-personalities within your mind. Without having knowledge of these, it is very difficult to alter the dynamics of a relationship, or change other areas of your life to run smoothly. Our rational mind does not understand joy nor does it feel joy. Rather it uses a sub-personality to interpret the experience. Try to notice which sub-personality is being used - only one can be used at a time. The modality of Voice Dialogues allows us to unlock the key to understanding ourselves better. It provides a safe environment to access our subconscious voice, expose patterns and behaviours that sabotage or ‘block’ us from success.

By releasing your fears you become stronger

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”  advises Professor Brené Brown, who shows us through her work, how we can turn fear into power.
Neroli Jones, PS founder has a more amusing analogy: think Nancy Ganz shapewear – “you can push and squeeze the unwanted pounds around but they won’t just vanish – they have to go somewhere!” A very big thank you to Steve Grant  Paradigm Switch Osteopath, Acupuncturist and Voice Dialogues Coach.